Hubby meets the Ex
I started to include this on the BodyWise Circle: Self-Love Challenge in the forums, but wanted to share it with all my buddies. I ran into my ex-husband tonight at the coffee shop. It was akward because this was the first time he had met my Hubby. I know much of his family has met Hubby just running into us here or there, but the inevitable finally happened.
I couldn’t read him. He smiled but didn’t talk much. But that is just how things were with him. But all my faults as his wife reared their ugly head in my memory, and I started questioning if I am doing some of the same things in this marriage.
Money is tough and I am in school. I wonder often if I give enough to help the household. Ick. Stuck between becoming and surviving is a sticky, icky place.
Don’t know if I have the energy to turn it all around and wax on about the positives.
I have shared most of my feelings with my Hubby…we just have that kind of relationship.
I don’t want to think back on the pains of my divorce, but I do have a part of me that hurts for the dreams that died with my ex…just out of respect for what we had intended to create together.
But if that was all created, I wouldn’t have what I have now in this beautiful marriage. I think in that regard I must be the LUCKIEST woman in the world. He is a treasure in so many ways. Wish you could all meet him…on the outside he is a bit quirky in the best way. He is quiet and introspective. Then, get to know him and he is joy filled. We are like two kids. What a pair of old people we will make. And we smile and cuddle lots.
Thank God for this life of mine…and bless the one I left…bless my ex and all the beauty and heart ache of his life. And thank you for allow the two guys to meet tonight.
That is something I don’t have to worry about anymore.
(Gunna crawl into bed and nest under the covers.) It’s one of those evenings.
Hugs,
Rae
Your doing great. Life will always give you no more than you can handle, and if it is to much to handle, then turn it over to the Lord, He is really good at taking care of the things we cannot do ourselves. Remember also, you are on the path you were ment to take in this life, and if your not, then the Lord again, will direct you to the right path, if we want to go or not.
God BLess and have a wonderful day!!
Mary
Hmmm…This was a timely blog for me…I was divorced in April after 13 years of marriage, and yesterday WOULD have been my 14th anniversary.
The Ex and I are still friends, but I too often slip into thoughts of what if…And the sadness of what could have been…Should have been for us…
It makes me sad too…
And now I have a new guy too. Who like your new hubby is AWESOME…And I know to get here I had to go there…
But its still overwhelming somedays on how I ended up here…
If you hadn’t been the wife you were…. you would not be the wife you are. I think life lessons make us better, certainly stronger. My ex-husband and I were unhappily wed for 32 years. He has since passed away (I win! yeah, I have a strange sense of humor) and actually the first 6 years were great. I am like you, blessed in my second marriage. I used to wonder why the first couldn’t have been better…. the golden years, etc. But then I would never have met John and we are such good friends and lovers, true soul mates! Would I appreciate the wonderful 19 years we’ve had together as much if not for the empty years of the past? It was as if I was being readied for this part of my life all along. I wouldn’t change a moment of my life… good or bad, I think it all has a purpose.
I think we all have to look at our experiences as learning tools. God makes no mistakes, so what ever we see as a challenge, is really a tool that he ( God) has put on front of us to learn from. Learning is the key to life, and your never to old to learn something new. Have a Blessed day!!!
Ah Rae! you are so very special! Excellent job on not letting the oppertunity for growth to pass you by… then again, you never do! Love Ya!
This is a beautiful post about your husband.
I wish I could meet you both. I love the picture I have formed in my head of the two of you after having grown old together: smiling, laughing and cuddling together. That is a sweet picture, it is one I have often of my husband and I. It is truly a beautiful and precious gift.